Continue, Don’t Quit : You Are Not in This Alone

Some days, as you wake up, you wonder what the point of this is. This whole talking, eating, sleeping.

This living.

What was the point of it, when you felt like you were watching another person’s life and yet felt so much pain? As if you weren’t meant to exist? As if… anything you touched became a disaster?
Was there even a point to begin with?

Every day, you have a heavy secret in your heart. One that grows heavier with every person you don’t tell it to. That weighs you down more and more as you think it but don’t say it out loud.
Until it gets so heavy, so LOUD, that you can’t believe that it’s only three words. Three simple words to think, but three very difficult words to feel.
And so, again and again, you think it, but you don’t speak it. You can’t say it.
Those three impossible words to say.

I am afraid.

Please help me.

“Talk”, they say, “Talk it out.”

Everyone has heard this before. But it isn’t as simple as it sounds. You can’t stop a friend and tell them you’re scared, it’s no meager task.
But even before that, the difficult part is to figure out exactly how you feel. It’s during this time of pondering that many entertain dangerous thoughts. Thoughts of ending it once and for all.

Sometimes, thinking of suicide is what actually gets back the want to live. But more often than not, most end thing for themselves permanently.

And despite hearing this a million times, the way to get back is by talking about it. The daunting task is choosing the person you’d want to talk to.

The Right Ear to Listen

Friends are almost impossible to talk to. Despite the fact that they are the closest, no, BECAUSE of the fact that they are closest to you, they aren’t very easy to talk to.
If there is a friend you aren’t afraid of talking to, it’s perfect.
Many also assume that they don’t have any friends, which is why, again, this wouldn’t be the first option.

If we talk helplines, they are too official. Most times, we don’t want it to become this official. Records, names given, no, there’s too big a chance of people finding out. Helplines are a little complicated for more reasons than can be told.

As for approaching strangers, that’s too sudden. How can you possibly just walk up to a stranger and tell them how you feel, no. It just doesn’t work.

But doesn’t it?

Many people who have thought of suicide use the internet.
And it’s so much easier to share things to people online. They need not know who you are and by all likelihood, they won’t ever meet you in person. But again, how do you know WHO to reach out to?

To this question, I do have a solution. Or rather a way to ensure it’s possible to reach out to a group of people ready to listen.

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With help from Rin-san

Together with Rin-san, Rai-san and Remy-nii,  I decided to call this “Continue, Don’t Quit”. The three of them, being as awesome as always, agreed to help me spread this project so it could have a wider reach and effect.

So, how does Continue, Don’t Quit work?

It’s easy. Anyone with the above logo on their blog or the tag “Continue, Don’t Quit” on their Twitter profile are ready to listen and offer any help possible.

You can speak your mind and we promise that we won’t reveal names, details or anything really, to anyone.
If you don’t want solutions but just want to write what you feel down somewhere, that’s fine too. You can tell me to not respond and I’ll just read it for you.
It really helps to be able to talk to someone with no strings attached, and I am volunteering. Please, please, take a second to talk.
It may not always have to be about how you feel, we can start with “My favourite type of shoes”, because sometimes carefree talks are effective.

Where can you reach me?
You can contact me directly through my blog here, send me an email or message me on twitter.
Email id: acaciaaurora10@gmail.com
Twitter: AuroraAcacia

In addition to providing a space to talk and to share, I also decided to do a monthly post on the same. Be it suggestions to keep happy or things not to forget, it’ll be mainly concentrated on the simplest things to remind you that you are worth it.

Everything will be fine?

Will everything be fine after you reach out? I won’t lie, it probably won’t change drastically. But I guarantee you’ll feel better after telling someone what you feel.
I may not know you. None of us might.
But we’re all there for you and that’s what matters.

Things may not be perfect immediately, they may never be. But you’re alive and you can change things.
They will definitely get better.

You may be ready to die for your friends, your beliefs, your pain, yourself. It may seem like the easy way out, but it isn’t. It is never the answer. It never will be.

“What if after you die, God asks you, How Was Heaven?”

Give yourself time to think, time to rethink and then more time to think again. Allow yourself the chance of another opinion, another person’s attention and thoughts.

Continue, Don’t Quit.

Because the question was never “Will you die for your beliefs and loved ones?”

The question is if you’d live for them.


 

 

 

 

 

 

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79 thoughts on “Continue, Don’t Quit : You Are Not in This Alone

  1. This post is so meaningful and important! I’ll definitely remember your words, Auri. You may not realise, but you have some amazing friends who’d listen to anything you have to say, however silly it may seem…yours truly included!😬
    But, in all seriousness, I believe that this post and Continue, Don’t Quit’ is going to help so many people! Great going!

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    1. I’m slightly offended to think that I haven’t made it clear enough that I am me only because of you guys.

      However, I am glad that you feel I could do something, so yes.
      “Continue, Don’t Quit”

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  2. This is amazing. Thank you for doing this, I’m sure it will help a lot of people. I’ve been in those dark places you describe, and I know having people to talk to — about anything, not necessarily directly what you’re feeling — is so helpful. It provides that feeling that your life still has some meaning, that you matter to someone.

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  3. This is just the great thing! Not a moment ago, I ended another post for my anxiety series and I ended up with the thought that I don’t have the power to help people with depression. Although I have it and nowadays I’m able to openly say that I have though of suicide, more than once, I don’t really know how I did get out of depression, it was some time ago and I don’t really remember doing something consciously…
    This idea is just the best and I’m really happy to see people out there helping others! It’s of the most importance because it’s true, people with depression, anxiety or other type of mental ilness, you ARE NOT ALONE! There are people that passed the same thing you are passing through and they were able to fight it, so you being there for them is just amazing!
    I don’t think I’ll be participating because, as I told you I don’t think I would do any good with depression! But I’ll spread the word to the seven winds! 🙂
    Again, thank you for this! It’s really amazing!

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    1. Art-san, you are a remarkable person and there isn’t anyway I can thank you for helping spread the word.

      Again, there really isn’t anything to thank me for, I’m just very happy to be able to do something.

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  4. Reblogged this on The Lily Garden and commented:
    Auri, a well-respected and kind member of the aniblogging community on WordPress, has started a project that many of us probably feel strongly about. She for sure does, as with the people who she contacted (which would be Irina, Raistlin, and myself).

    I’m keeping this short and vague since I don’t want to abridge her marvelous work. Go read her post in which she is both courageous and supportive. You’ll see what I mean. It is my sincere wish that you check out what she has written and has started.
    She cares. We care.

    Continue, Don’t Quit.

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  5. Reblogged this on Raistlin0903 and commented:
    Bravery. Just what excactly makes a person brave? It can be different for everyone I guess. But I recently came across a type of bravery from someone that I already greatly admired in the first place, but who I would now want to call a hero. Her name is probably known to most of you already as many of you have all encountered her in some from or another. And if you have not, you would be very wise to go and check her out right now. Auri is one of the purest and kindest souls I have met on WordPress. She leaves wonderful comments, she writes posts that give encouragement, and in short she is someone that I think makes up the very definition of what being a good human being is all about. So why do I now also call her a hero? A few weeks ago she contacted me, together with the amazing Irina and Remy for our help in a project that she wanted to take on. Now, I would have helped her out no matter what the project would be about (because really how could anyone refuse help to her?), but this was something else entirely.

    Underneath this introduction you will find her post that is about a subject that most people would be afraid to maybe even adress. Much less offer to reach out and help. Auri’s post about it however offers hope. It offers help. And most importantly it shows that no one is ever alone. We all need people when we go through a rough time. I encourage everyone to read this post. It is shining example of why Auri is such an important part of this community. But also…don’t be afraid to reach out when you want our help. After reading her post you will know what I mean by this. And after reading it you will also know why I call her a hero now.

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  6. This is so important. I know way too many people who pretend to be okay, both in real life and on the Internet. Some of them talk to me about things, but not all of them would. Far too many times, I probably can’t even tell. I’m willing to support this project if there’s anything I can do~

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  7. Auri! This is such a wonderful idea and I will definitely try my best to help in this initiative! I read this through Raistlin’s post. Some time back, I wrote a posy of depression and suicide which I wrote from the heart. And it was after that, that I got to find our that some people near me were depressed and sometimes at thw brink of suicide. In that post I wrote about hot lines and talking to friends and all. But you are so roght. And this can help. Which is why I will be taking part in this as well.

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  8. You’re an amazing person, Auri!!! This is a wonderful project. It is a real problem for sure, and I think that you’ll and others be able to help a lot of people. ^^ I’ll put it on my Twitter bio! 🙂

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  9. Wow Auri and everyone, this is a really great idea and a beautiful post! Thank you for doing this. It’s seriously important to create safe havens and create safe spaces where anyone could talk about everything under the sun that could be bothering them.

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  10. Reblogged this on The Animanga Spellbook and commented:
    As much as I’d like to keep this a place for happy things, sometimes all you need is someone to listen to you vent. Sometimes things don’t work out.

    To that I say: Regardless of what your situation is, I’d like to help you.

    You can use the contact page, Twitter (@MagicConan14) or, if you’d prefer anonymity, courage-a-word-of-justice on Tumblr to reach out.

    Please continue, don’t quit.

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  11. Reblogged this on The Moyatorium and commented:
    I know this has been reblogged in the community a lot already, but bear with me – this is an important post. Not going to say too much here, since Auri says it better. But I’m here too, if anyone wants to chat about anything.
    I am fortunate enough to not have experienced the death of a close friend, but I know I’d be devastated if it ever happens. Death hurts, and there’s nothing I fear more than losing someone to it.
    I once tried contacting a counsellor through the Internet to talk about life during high school, but was put off by the professional way in which she asked me to book an appointment. It doesn’t matter how well I know you or if I know you at all, and it doesn’t matter how great or how inconsequential you think your problem is; you can easily shoot me an email by clicking on my contact page. I’ve heard that my avatar’s creepy, but trust me, I’m a nice person…

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  12. Reblogged this on Fueled by Smiling and commented:
    This is truly a beautiful initiative and one that I 1000% support. If there’s anyone struggling or feeling alone, please do yourself a favour and talk to someone. I know it’s easy to say, but it’s one of the hardest things to do when you’re in this place.

    Depression and having suicidal thoughts is something that a lot of people struggle with, so please don’t think that you’re alone or that you’re not worthy of being listened to. Because you’re not alone and you’re worthy.

    And I get that what I said sounds contrive and cliched, but it’s true. The first step is to talk. It could be to Auri and the other wonderful bloggers who are taking part in Don’t Quit, it could be to God, your parents, a sibling, or an adult/friend that you trust,but don’t keep your thoughts to yourself.

    That one step can change everything.

    A big thanks for Auri for setting up this initiative.

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  13. Reblogged this on MoeGamer and commented:
    There’ll be a full post coming later today, but I wanted to share this as I feel it’s super-important.

    I have struggled with depression, anxiety and even suicidal thoughts at times, and I know it has always helped me — and even brought me back from “the brink” — to have someone to talk to.

    So this initiative set in place by some of my favourite anibloggers really touched me. Please read Auri’s post, and, if you’re hurting and need help… please reach out to someone, whether it’s me, or any one of the others who have offered their support.

    You can contact me via Twitter at https://twitter.com/MoeGamer or via my site https://moegamer.net/contact — or check out any of the other people who have put themselves forward for this by reading Auri’s original post.

    Thank you for setting this up, everyone; I feel that a lot of people out there will benefit just from knowing this exists.

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  14. Hats off to you, Auri! I know that this post has been reblogged or linked to by many other bloggers, but I had to do my part in it. Rai san and Remy too, you guys have done a wonderful job to start such a noble and crucial project. I hope that this helps all those lost and confused peoples who are desperately looking for help. Seriously, I have to say this, Thank you Auri! It needs a lot of courage and determination to come up with an idea I like this, if you ever need me for anything regarding this, I’m up for it.

    Brilliant post!

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  15. Reblogged this on Chizurue and commented:
    “I may not know you. None of us might. But we’re all there for you and that’s what matters.”

    To the people who are willing to share their time and lend their ear to those who needs it (especially Auri, Remy, Raistlin and Irina), you are such rays of sunshine in this blogging community.

    Sometimes just knowing that someone would be willing listen is the first step back. Even if it’s just one little step at a time, it is still a step away from the edge so it matters. Hope this project helps a lot of people to ‘continue and don’t quit’! 👊🏼

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  16. Reblogged this on Touch My Spine Book Reviews and commented:
    I found this on Kim’s blog @ By Book or By Hook and I am so thankful she shared this and am so thankful to the creators of this posts. As someone who flatlined from a suicide attempt and used self harm as a coping skill, I encourage anyone who needs to talk about anything that has them on the edge to not hesitate to reach out to the creators of this post, myself, or any other participants! No matter what you have done or have been through, you matter! My email is found at the top of my homepage if anyone ever needs to talk or needs a little extra boost of encouragement! Much Love Guys! Xoxox😘🤗😍

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  17. Just found your blog thru Dani and I’m glad I did. Wow. Thank you for this I really needed this right now. Thank you so much and though I want to tell you many things, your friends(some are my friends too) above already said it and well, keep going… 🙂 🙂 🙂 I’m proud of you though I just know about you like five minutes ago. This is remarkable what you and your friends doing. As someone who’s been battling depression for long now, I’m glad to find people like you who cares. 🙂 🙂 🙂 Will reblog this..

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  18. Reblogged this on Lili's Blissful Pages and commented:
    Hi guys,
    Yesterday I posted a non-bookish post and will continue to do so. Expect more personal posts from me. Now, this post I stumbled upon Dani’s blog. She reblogged it from another blogger named Aurie and reading it, I knew I have to reblog it too. Please read this, it’s not bookish but it’s important to me. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  19. Great post. This is a wonderful idea. I admire your decision to start this project.

    Sometimes people just need an understanding, unjudging, person just to listen. It was somewhat synchronistic that I tumbled to this post because Im currently reading an ethnography called Teenage Suicide Notes by Terry Williams.

    Is there a way to join your project?

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